Have We Lost Our Righteous Faminine Attire

  


Why do we wear what we wear? Is there any intent on our part, in our manner of dressing? Are we sending messages, and if so, to whom, for what reasons?  




"Clothing becomes a status symbol and states she can afford the latest trendy fashion.  The fact that someone else is setting her style of dress does not matter to the Black woman.  She eagerly awaits the latest styles to be unveiled so she can commence to plan how she will acquire it.  She wants everyone to know she is up to date fashion-wise and can afford to keep up. The Black woman will borrow clothes from her friends to go out on a special date with a Black man to demonstrate her multifaceted wardrobe and prove she can dress richly.  She will run up charge accounts, borrow from the rent and make any sacrifice she deems necessary to obtain a certain outfit she believes she absolutely must own.  When the lifestyle changes, she changes too. Her self-esteem is bolstered when strangers compliment her on her outfit and tell her how fine she looks.  She may take literally hours to dress to perfect her special "look."  She will stand poised in doorways, on street corners, in the line at the bank, at the bus stop, on the elevator, or in the mall hoping that a man or anyone else will notice how finely dressed she is. 
Maintaining her wardrobe is at the top of her list of priorities.  She must have clothing, a few drop-dead pieces, then food and shelter. She may even brag to her friends about how much she paid for a certain garment.  She knows little about the mark-up on designer clothing and cares less that it is sometimes 500 to 5000%.  It rarely occurs to her to design and make her own clothes.  She considers making her own clothes as tacky, and any other woman who shows she is attempting to make her own clothes is laughed at and made to feel out of step with the times.  However, since the clothes are so important to her she should make an effort to make some of her garments herself.  Purchasing fine garments made by white designers is another major way that huge amounts of money leaves the Black communities.  Since poor Blacks are more concerned with stylish clothes than poor whites, it would be wise for Blacks to establish their own clothing factories and buy from each other.
Some Black women adorn the tightest clothing they can find.  Black women think that skintight clothes will get them the most attention from men.  Tight clothes are restricting, uncomfortable and bind, but it does not matter to the Black woman how much she has to endure.  Any amount of pain is worth suffering if it succeeds in attracting the attention of the right man, or many men.  Some wear low cut dresses to show off their breasts, or wear no bra at all to show their breast and the imprint of their nipples.  All of this is designed to appear sexy.  She may wear an extra short micro-mini skirt and sit in a wide legged way to entice any men who are looking on.  She wears see-through clothing, thin dresses without a slip or any other kind of alluring outfit because she is trying to show her body form in a sexy way to show men what she has.  Sadly, the Black woman is convinced that the only quality she has to offer is her body and feminine wiles.  She places her sexual value above all others, she believes that physical attraction is the only thing she has going for her as a female.  If a man whistles or makes lewd remarks at her, she acts like she is appalled yet she dresses in such a way as to demand attention and some kind of reaction from men.  While she claims she does not want to be desired just for her body, she does everything she can to keep it in the forefront.  She considers the Black man as an animal that reacts the most strongly to sexual suggestion.  She thinks that he is base, raunchy and easily managed with sex.  She does not think that the Black man has enough sense to seek out self-respect, self-discipline, cheerfulness, and courteousness, cleanliness, and intelligence in her.  But when she presents herself as a sex object she can only be seen in that light and treated accordingly.  Sex represents affection to her.  It is practically all she knows about loving.  When she attracts the wrong kind of fish she doesn't realize it's because she is using the wrong kind of bait.  It is extremely difficult to convince a Black woman to alter or adjust her revealing style of dress.  She thinks that the Black man telling her to dress more civilized is because he does not want anyone else to look at her or want her.  She rationalizes that if she wants to keep her man on his toes she must constantly prove to him that she is in demand by other men.  This is so he will know that he has a real prize in her.
By the Black woman reducing her standards to a concentration of ways to attract the Black man through sexual innuendo in her style of dressing, he has succumbed to the promises of that idea and does indeed appear to be impressed with half-dressed Black women.  He has given up the idea of meeting an attractive competent woman who knows how to be a woman to a man. The Black woman's style of dress can set the tone of the initial approach of the Blackman.  Often she will sit or stand in a provocative way so as to entice the Black man to sneak a peek, or try to look under her dress, or through her dress, or down her bosom or up her behind.  She may bend over or stoop in such a way as to provide a clear shot of her buttocks or frontal pelvic area.  The man may think that he is indeed sneaking a peek at her and that she is unaware.  But the Black woman in her plotting to entice the Black man through sexual explicit knows full well what parts of her body can be seen from every angle.  She check this out in her full length mirror before she leaves home. She knows how she sits and how she stands. 
Black women try out every pose imaginable to find out which one shows the greatest portion of the areas they are trying to tease with.  She is never unaware of the affect her style of dress has on the Black man.  She will also wear clothing that shows the imprint of her underwear.  She may wear brightly colored print panties so they will show vividly through her slacks or dress.  This, of course is done to draw attention to her figure.  While doing all this she pretends that she is unaware of what is happening.  So as she oozes around a room, tossing her head and batting her eyes at the men in closest proximity she enjoys the thrill of playing a high-tech game of "ain't I a lot of woman?"  She may float about swishing her hips from one end of he room to the other challenging all the men present to vie for her attentions to see who can qualify to take her home." (How She Dresses, Chapter 11)
Well now, what do we have to say about this? Don't everybody get all "angelic" on me now, it ain't happenin' like that.  Y'all know that we use to dress in this manner, and some of us STILL DO TODAY!  The question to ask is "how did we get our present or past husband's attention enough to marry us?!  Did we use some of the things that Beyonce sings about like "Booty Licious" and or "I'll be your Naughty Girl". Do we want the world to take a look at our "boobies" like one of our many misdirected sister, Janet Jackson .  Now for those of us that are self-righteous, thinking because wear ankle length skirts and dresses and think that we're dressed modestly, we need to ask ourselves, do our skirts and dresses have splits in them and why?  Did you know that splits are nothing but arrows pointing to certain attention getting areas of our bodies.  This is designed purposefully by the "designers" of the clothing we choose to buy.  The best thing to do is to get out those sewing machines  sisters, and make our own and our families clothing!

God is Love!!!